Friday, July 22, 2011

Something that has been bothering me for a weeks now

Hi I know all of you will understand where I am coming from when I tell you this story that I have kept to myself for several weeks now.

I have an amamzing boyfriend named Blake and without him I do not know how I would have gotten through this the past year since she was diagnosed. I will save that story for another blog on another day.

So here is what happened Blake has a big family with bothers, sistes and step brothers and sisters as well with all their kids. It was July 4th weekend and Blakes mother was having somewhere between 20-25 people there for the whole weekend with all the kids and so forth. I offered to do to all the desserts for that weekend. I made several differnt ones to be exact I made 6 all together 2 for each day Sat, Sun and Mon the 4th. On Saturday evening I took over what we call a Dreamy Creamy Kool-Aid Pie, Death by Chocoalte and a Ice-cream sandwhich dessert as well. All of which my daughter can eat when she is given the proper insulin. One of the ladies there that evening turned to me and said " Is this why your daughter is the way she is because you fed her sweets all the time?" For the first few seconds I was shocked she even said that to me. Then I got angry that someone would accuse of me that. After about 30 seconds which seemed like hours I looked at her and said "NO MY DAUGHTER WAS BORN WITH THIS DISEASE IT IS AN AUTO IMMUNE DISEASE IT WAS JUST A MATTER OF TIME THIS COULD OF HAPPENED WHEN SHE WAS SMALLER OR 10 YEARS FROM NOW!" Then I had to walk away. I felt like she was saying I caused my daughter to have this, which I know is NOT true, but when someone says something like that to you when you have a T1 it hits home a little more than someone who is not T1.

I am sure many of you have been in similar situation before. I almost lost it but I think I did well. If people only understood what T1 really was all about. I can't even imagine having said something like to someone not knowing much about the disease. Once again people amaze me!!!!


  1. I am so sorry you had to hear such an awful comment from someone. People are ignorant and uninformed. I don't understand why people say the things they do about diabetes, the complications, etc especially to parents of T1. I think you did the right thing by setting her straight. All we can do is educate and hope they get it, but usually people like that still won't listen. I feel your frustration!

  2. This is why all D mama's and T1's shout from the rooftops when the media(or whomever) doesn't differentiate between type one and type 2.

    I get it... the confusion. I didn't know the difference 3 years ago either. BUT... even so, I would NEVER imply that a mother caused their child illness. It's RUDE and inconsiderate to open your mouth in such manner.

    I know that hurt. I have felt the same hurt before, but I promise it gets easier to "deal" with. If your anything like me... you went over it in your head for days thinking of all the things you could have, should have said. If you did... next time you will have one hell of a response.


  3. This is one of the hardest things for me to deal with. Like Lora said, I get it. I didn't even know there were two types of diabetes before Ally's diagnosis.

    But I really hate it when people don't listen when I try to explain it. Seems like the ones who make those type of comments don't even hear it when I explain the differences. I have gotten better over the past 2 1/2 years about looking at it as an opportunity to educate instead of letting it get to me! Hugs!!

  4. It is so nice to log on here and see that each and everyone of you undertand where I coming from. I would of never said something to someone if I did not know anything about it!

    I am very emotional about this disease. Sometimes I feel like a train wreck,this week being one of them. I am sure there is all kinds of emotions we go through at different times. Some days I just roll with the punches other days I am mess thinking to much! I am hoping this gets easier with time.

    (((HUGS))) to all of you wonderful D mama's I have met this week, you will never know how much this means to me!!!!!!!